I recently reached out to all of you for help dealing with Nathan's meltdowns. We also have a crisis therapist who helps us handle them. Her first advice was to ignore them. This has actually helped quite a bit, but it is not always possible.
Usually, Nathan is a sweet, happy boy but occasionally he loses it, and its not easy to predict when or why it will happen |
At school, the first week or so was great. Nathan’s regular teacher is out on maternity leave, so he has been getting used to a new, interim teacher. Everyday after school, we were getting great reports about Nathan doing really well and participating. Then Thursday of last week, we got a report that he had a difficult morning, and it started as soon as he set foot inside the door of the school. I was shocked to hear this. We had an amazing morning together. Then on Friday, I got a call from the principal that Nathan had a meltdown during math (Nathan really hates math). He cursed, punched and kicked his aide and refused to do his work. The principal asked me to talk to him to see if I could calm him down. As soon as I got on the phone Nathan said, “F--- you, mom, I hate you.” The principal got back on the phone and said these are similar things to what he was saying in class. I asked the principal to put Nathan back on the phone. I reminded Nathan that in order grow up to be an architect, he has to listen to his teachers, do what they ask him to do, study hard and learn math. His whole attitude changed. He apologized to me, and to the principal and asked to return to his classroom.
Once again, we met with Nathan’s crisis therapist about these recent outbursts. She wrote out a contract that both she and Nathan signed, saying that if he gets angry, he will ask for help or ask for a break. If he makes good choices and controls his outbursts, we will work on building a fort in our backyard. (I have no idea how to build a fort!) I reached out to Nathan’s teacher and told her about the plan.
One of the hardest parts of dealing with these meltdowns, is they are so hard to predict. Most of the time, Nathan is a loving, sweet boy, but occasionally, he just loses it. And there is no way to predict what will set him off and when. I am not sure if the contract will work, but I am willing to try anything. I will never stop trying new things to try to help him.
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